I am having dinner tonight with the organizer of the young widows and widowers dinner group that I go to once a month. I had previously stepped down as assistant organizer. It’s a strange thought….that I am having less and less in common with these people.
My daily activity has not included grief for many months. I still have my dark moments, and there is still a lot of work to do, but I don’t feel I am getting anything out of these dinners anymore.
But this is just a dinner with the organizer, not the whole group. And I find I don’t have much in common with her either, even though she was a great sounding board for my thoughts and extremely helpful in my first year of grief.
I downloaded an app for my phone called “PocketMoney”
I hope to track my spending on the house. The app was so easy to use, I decided to track a couple of other items as well.
I added categories for Transportation (gas, bus tickets), Entertainment…..and the big one……Restaurants.
I just started this at the beginning of the month, and I am already shocked at the amount of money I spend on restaurants. And I cook food at home!
I am literally shocked and it is only 2 weeks into the experiment.
And my entertainment category? Depressingly the least amount has been spent. I guess it’s all perspective though, as most of my “Entertainment” is having dinner out with friends to socialize.
Lefty Frizzell - If you've got the money (I've got the time)