The Young Widows and Widowers dinner was last night, with 4 new members showing up. While everyone goes through this process differently, I am amazed when I encounter an individual that has not talked to a trained professional counselor/facilitator/shrink at any point in the grieving process during the first 2-3 years. This dinner group is more for social interaction rather than deep core issues. We laugh and make inappropriate jokes that ‘normal’ people would be horrified to hear. We give ourselves a break from the extremely tiring task of being other people’s catalyst for their grief. We give comfort in the fact we are not going through this process alone. We do not and can not provide psychoanalysis or recommend treatment for specific individuals. We can however, give them space to smile and laugh and maybe even give a glimpse of a possible future where happiness can become the norm again.